Understanding consequences
Ruby is 3 and ½ now, has a good understanding of the language (both french and English), knows what is right and wrong, knows when mum is cross and is quite intelligent I believe. Having removed the bars on her cost a few weeks ago now (for the 4th time), we are still having the conversation with her about staying in bed at night and not coming into our bedroom, standing next to my side of the bed and waiting until I wake – she usually scares me half to death as I am a little freaked out to find someone standing right beside me watching me sleep. I really do not want to spend another half an hour or so of my life putting her bars back on, plus I do not think this is the right thing to do. She needs to understand that it is not her choice to get out of bed, if words alone do not work then we need to find something that she can relate to.
“Kitty” and “Cow hot water bottle” seems to be the solution – I have clearly explained that if she does not stay in bed and continues to wake mummy she will loose the right to keep her kitty and hot water bottle. As promised I followed through on my threat plus the added loss of TV to hit home and it would appear that she now clearly understands that if she does not do as she is told then she does not get to keep the things she likes. She understands the naughty mat and still sometimes will do naughty things and put herself on the mat – is that her mind telling her it was “worth it for 3 minutes on the mat”? I remember when I was talking with my mum about her staying in or not staying in bed as was more of the case mum said that was never an issue for them as they just locked our door!